JEALOUS ?

No jealousy between them !

- SNAP

From time to time a drama takes place in this house ! Old cat Lisa decided to squat my bed and Pookie (who consideres herself as my personal cat) had to move out, because Lisa is convinced that she is the master of the house. I cannot interfere as I am supposed to love them both the same way. Of course I do, but each one in another way. Now they are jealous and hiss and snap at each other and I the poor subject of this jealousy is sitting here and got the inspiration of writing about jealousy ! Have I ever been jealous ?

Many women are jealous or even abnormaly jealous. When you talk about jealousy you automaticaly think it concerns a woman being jealous about another because she is afraid that the other one would snap away her man.

I don't think that I have ever been jealous of another woman because she would try to snap away my man. Not because there were no occasions there surely were but it isn't part of my nature. Anyway if the guy wants to look elsewhere and thinks that he would be more happy with somebody else, let him go, there are so many mothers having nice and handsome sons.

Sometimes when I hear "don't tell this or that to my wife, she is very jealous" just because I had seen him in a Café having a drink with a female collegue, I really pity him. Some women are standing every day in front of the office to pick up their partner not leaving him alone for a minute. That's not for me, I would feel like a prison warden and anyway if I cannot trust somebody he is not interesting for me.

Once I had a boyfriend who watched every step I did and called me several times a day to check if I was there, office or home. That made me feel like having a boa around my neck strangling me slowly until I could not breath anymore. So I had to say good bye to the guy, but he wouldn't give up for a year even when I was busy with my wedding preparations.

If you come to the point to borrow your friend's car put on a wig, black sunglasses and a raincoat and follow your partner to snap him with another women, then it is time to look for a psychiatrist.

But there are also other ways of jealousy. You can be jealous about the neigbor's bigger car, or the jewlery hanging on a woman like decoration on a Christmas tree, or because somebody has more money, travels a lot or has a better job.

These are things I am not jealous of, but I could be jealous when I hear that this or that friend had a family party with aunts, oncles, nephews, grandmas etc and I have none. When I do a family party we are just the four of us and the cats of course, I almost forgot ! Or I could be jealous when I hear that a mother has a very special relationship to her child, and I just had a fight with mine.

But I have very good friends and that compensates the lack of family. When I hear sometimes what happens in families between brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, uncles and aunts so that I could write a whole book about family meetings, then I tell myself you can choose your friends but you inherit your family.

Are you jealous ?

Jealous because he looks at another woman ?