1.My grandma was born in 1884 and celebrated 1900 as a six year old child and she still could remember the festivities.
2. She had 11 siblings but I don't know where she was situated, amongst the youngest or eldest. She only kept contact with two of her sisters, the other 9 I never saw or heard of.
3. She was a pretty woman, 1.70 m (5.5) tall, had a very strong character, an open mind and a sharp tongue, all qualities which didn't fit at all to a young woman in the beginning of 1900.
4. My Grandma wasn't afraid of anybody or anything and especially not of men and didn't think of marriage. This too was unbelievable and caused a lot of troubles to her father. At that time girls had no choice but marriage or being an old maid to make fun of or joining a convent. Studies were impossible for a girl, women were not allowed to vote and in fact had no rights at all but obeying their husbands or fathers.
5. Grandma decided that nothing would fit to her and looked for a job. She was 14 years old and had to leave school. Girls didn't go any farer.
6. She found a job in the kitchen of a very rich family and helped the cook. She liked it very much because she finally had her own room and didn't have to share it with her sisters.
7. Very soon she got so appreciated by this family, that they replaced the old cook by her and she cooked for big dinners, galas etc. And as the guests were so happy with what she had served she got a lot of compliments and were always called to the tables, where she stood much taller than the average guests.
8. Finally getting "old" she decided to get married because she didn't want to be called an "old maid" and also it was much easier for a married women in daily life.
9. She met my grandpa on the wedding of her niece, the daughter of one of her sisters. My grandpa was the older brother of the groom. He also had 11 brothers and sisters. With that she became the sister in law to her niece.
10. My grandpa was a very easy to live man. He consisted of three words, peace, love and food and before anything else NO PROBLEMS.
11. Grandma decided that this was the right man and they married. He was very happy to have such a pretty wife as he was quite short (a few cm less than her) and all round. Round head, round belly, round everything. That's like that I remember him. He also were already bald at 25, today in fashion, at that time not. They had a happy marriage.
12. As soon as she were married, Grandma took everything over. She ruled the household, ruled her husband, ruled her world. She didn't want children she always had in mind her mother who were pregnant her whole life. But as it happens, she got one girl. (my aunt who later married an american and moved to Madison/Wisc). 4 years later she was again pregnant and not very happy about it and that was my mother.
13. When I were born and she saw that my mother were unable to handle a baby and my father anyway didn't care, she took me over and I lived with my grandparents until I was 7. She was a great mother to me. She gave me the feeling of being a person, she told me to never be afraid of anything or anybody she formed my character. She made me like I am today. When my parents decided to take me with them because I had to go to school, it was too late, my education was done, and I became the "abnormal" daughter to my father. He was a real macho and became desesperated with that girl who did everything but not what she was told.
My grandma died watching her favourite soap on TV, she just felt asleep and didn't wake up anymore. She was 95 years old and had survived two world wars. And I always think she was born in the wrong century !
My grandma freshly married at 24