27.8.06

WHY FIGHTING IN A MARRIAGE ?

Today I was thinking about fights in a couple.

Maybe it's because my husband always complains that I don't feed the cats ! He puts food in the bowls all the time when it's empty so that there is never fresh food, when the cat finally decides that she is hungry.

Freshly married couples use to fight about "you didn't buy me any flowers this week end", "We have to go to MY parents first" "Where have you been" and so on. In short nothing very special and only a pretext for reconciliation afterwards. Fights provoke nice moments.

Later when the first child is there it starts with "No now it's your turn", "why did you forget to pick him/her up", "I had said no and you say yes" "I have already given him/her pocket money" (Meanwhile little darling had pocket money TWICE) "Why did you say that" (Darling is happy, parents fight) and so on. Nothing very special but reconciliations are not so easy, as the children are around.

Then comes the moment when children are out of house and the couple is retired. And this is the nicest time to fight as they have a lot of time and then it breaks the daily routine.

It starts in the morning :

You forgot to clean the percolator, the filter is still in.

her : then take it out

him : I did it already yesterday

her : then do it again

him : why ?

her : ### ! Instead of discussing make the coffee !!

him : But the filter is in !

her : TAKE IT OUT ###

him : you see, you are always shouting at me !

her : I don't shout ### take the filter out I want some coffee !

him : See you are again shouting

her : I am not ###

her : I want my coffee !!!him : me too

her : then take this damned filter out

him : OK, but this is the last time

her : "sigh"

him : why are you sighing ?

her : I didn't

him : yes you did, it's always my fault I can do what I want for you, you are never satisfied.

her : what does that mean now ?

him : yes you are bitching the whole day !

her : Me ?? Never ! you are

him : I am not

her : yes you do, only yesterday you told me i put the plastic bottle in the wrong bag !

him : but you did

her : maybe, but then, why didn't you take it out ?

him : Why should I ? you put it in.

her : But you saw it !

him : yes, I saw it, you never see anything, I have to do everything in this house !

her : that's not true ! Do you do the laundry, fold it and put it in the wardrobe, switch the dishwasher on and do the shopping ? You just do nothing, tell me what you do !

him : Everything I told you !

her : Nothing, you do nothing !

him : You see, you are always agressing me and you are moody !

her : I am NOT moody, you just sit around

him : I don't sit around

her : OK then you lay around that's the same

him : it's not the same

her : yes it is

him : no, it is not

etc etc etc (and when they are not dead, they are still alive)

Yes, I can see the evalution of a happy marrige until the bitter end ....

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2 comments:

Mousie said...

dear ingrid...i've seen your photo somewhere;;;wasn't it in the blog of a young mum talking about breast feeding???in the comments ?
you may receive my mail if you belong to blogger-reviews...and you were bound to get them one day i'm so talkative on the web and in life...i'm so happy to meet you i'll visit your blog later, i'm going to have breakfast...i stopped the computer at 5pm!!! could i get your mail,see you later dear my mail is:
claudine.le-gac@laposte.net

angelchen said...

u dont like classical music rite?